Considering Divorce?...Consider This
Everyone has seen the statistics. More than half of all marriages end in divorce. But we don't really need statistics to prove that, do we? Look around...talk to friends...a "marriage on the rocks" certainly isn't an uncommon topic of discussion these days. For women, especially, the notion of divorce can be very scary - especially in these economic times. There are countless reasons people use to justify staying in a bad marriage. Some people feel are afraid for their physical safety, others feel "financially trapped." Still others stay "for the sake of the children." Whatever your specific circumstances, you owe it to yourself to explore your options. You may be in a much better position, legally, than you realize.
During this emotional, often completely overwhelming time, you need some guidance. You should have information necessary to make educated decisions your life, your family, your children and their futures. If you are even considering divorce, it is a good idea to discuss your situation with a divorce attorney. It is never too early to be legally advised of your rights. Knowledge really is power.
I am not suggesting that divorce is easy---it's not! Divorce can be a very difficult process emotionally and financially. But the more you know and the better you plan, the better prepared you will be to ease the transition for yourself (and for your children).
For starters, gather financial information. If you, like many women, do not handle the day-to-day finances, start investigating. Anything you can find concerning your monthly expenses, assets and liabilities (regardless of whether they are in your name, your spouse's name or your joint names) will be helpful.
You may be eligible for spousal maintenance/alimony, so be sure to inquire about how much financial support you can reasonably expect in your circumstances. Also, start thinking about your own future from a professional standpoint. What will you do to earn an income after you are divorced? Do you need more training/education? Make a plan for yourself and speak with your attorney about your plan in connection with spousal maintenance.
Last but not least, create a positive environment for yourself. Regardless of whether or not you ultimately go through with divorce, you deserve to be happy. There is no shame in seeking counseling or even medication to help you cope with less than ideal circumstances. (However, be sure to discuss with your attorney the potential ramifications of the same in the event that you end up in a custody battle.) Surround yourself with positive people; join support groups; do whatever you need to do...just take care of yourself! That includes getting informed of your legal rights! Having a game plan---even if it is never used---is always the best strategy.
